Tis the season they say. Of Overindulgence, I might add.
I don't know abougt you, but I can't help it. I have what I refer to as an adverse reaction when I even *think* about willpower. Sure, I will hem and haw over things. And usually end up doing/eating/buying it anyway. I will go into this season with the best of intentions and don't even feel any remorse when those intentions get carted out to the garage in the bag from Target that held so many presents on the way home.
I'm not sure what it is. My kids do not go without, this is true. BUT, I don't just buy them things willy nilly - usually there has to be a NEED for the item or it's their birthday or Christmas. Sometimes a random Tuesday present will make its way to the house, but usually it's something that was so cheap, I couldn't NOT buy it. And they still don't have as much as a lot of their friends.
But I will go overboard at Christmas. Every single stinkin year. I've tried setting a monetary limit to their gifts this year again - but when one is older, his gifts get more expensive and so he's opening less presents. And he's at the age where the number of presents IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH. Heaven forbid that J-bird gets more gifts. Even if they're crap $1 things. So then I'm trying to juggle numbers and amounts at the same time. Hello, I dropped my accounting minor - I don't wanna deal with this crap.
And what does one get for a 9-month old child who is the third boy who has the benefit of every birthday and Christmas present his brothers have ever received? So far, he has a pillow pet in the closet waiting for him. I'm thinking of diapers and wipes as well. Woo Boy, he's in for some excitement. Probably some annoying singing stuffed animal as well since he is entranced when he hears stuff like that.
I also know that they will get showered with presents from their grandparents and aunts and uncles. They are extremely lucky children, I know this. I know, I know, I know. I guess I need to realize that maybe mom and dad get them the boring presents - you know, undies and socks, pajamas and jackets. Ugh.
I am going to try to get them in the spirit of giving as well. Teach them that it's not all about receiving. We've started to talk about this with the food drive at the school and at church, but I don't know that they realize that needy doesn't only mean food, it also extends to toys and clothes and to kids their own age. Maybe even friends at school or daycare. I am going to make that my mission for the next month. And then hopefully I can also get something going every quarter that we can do so that we give throughout the year, not only during the Christmas season.
Where do you draw the line when it comes to presents and Christmas??
We do Hanukkah, but have the same problems- my kids all have winter birthdays (one overlaps with the holiday this year,) so it's an extra challenge. They always seem to turn into spoiled brats right after all the gift giving. I need to give this some serious thought!
ReplyDeleteI have no idea... I haven't even really thought of this. I definitely don't want them to have a bad attitude about this... but it's not necessarily what WE give them... grandparents spoil them like craaaazy. Gosh.
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